Doesn’t it seem like a lot of younger people are really figuring out their lives early on, being their authentic selves and overall thriving in life? It can be really intimidating and also a bit annoying to those of us who it feels like it’s taken a lifetime, and we’re still not there yet.
The Healing Journey
My belief is that we are all meant to come here in this lifetime to learn certain things and grow in certain ways. I think some of us came with some ambitious goals too. LOL. I feel like I’m one of them. You too?
What do I mean by that? Well, I mean that we’ve had to go through a lot of crap to get where we are today. That it may have taken a long time and a lot of lessons to get here too. And by all means, we are all still learning those lessons as we go. Personally, I’m so done with it all. I feel like I’ve found my way through all of it, I’ve changed my beliefs and patterns, I’ve cleared a lot of old junk from my system – and I’m ready for really great things in my life.
That said, in our world, I’m a bit of a late bloomer. I don’t think I’m alone though. I think we can make huge changes in our lives at any time. Look at Louise Hay of Hay House. She started her business in her 70’s and took it from just herself to a huge global publishing company! In light of that, I’m pretty young! Seriously though, I think most of us have a lot to overcome in our lives, and that takes time. So when you finally rise like the phoenix that you are, age does not matter. It’s what you do with your life that does.
Think about all you’ve learned in your rising up. All of the lessons, experiences, and strength that you’ve gained. You have so much to celebrate, and so much to share in your life, at any age. Wisdom is so valuable. Others can learn and grow from your wisdom.
All the Time You Need
What can intimidate me though is the amazing women who are my age and younger who are on the path that I want to be on. I see how far they’ve come and hear their stories about all it took to get where they are, and that freaks me out. I think, I’m 50 years old – I don’t have time to climb that mountain, do I? But I do. What, am I going to just sit here until I die at 90 or something? No. I think we tend to believe that great careers (and great love stories) usually start young. But it’s just not true.
A new career path can begin at any time in our lives. A great relationship and even marriage to the love of your life can happen at any time in your life as well. Heck even wealth, spiritual awakening, and great health can happen at any time – even after a long journey of suffering. It’s just a matter of you waking up to it all. There is no right path, and there is no particular time it needs to happen.
I know I’ve kicked myself over the years when I could clearly see in hindsight the lessons that took me forever to learn. Like the many rocky relationships before I finally began to find my own self-worth and value, and to stop settling for less than I deserved. I needed to figure out who I was and love myself first. That sometimes takes a great deal of time. For others, not so much.
Self Love is the Key
This lack of self-love shows up in all areas of our lives and must be worked through in every spoke of our life wheel (see my Wheelhouse videos for more on the wheel concept). So yes, we need to love ourselves of course, but then we need to show up with that self-love in our relationships, career, spirituality and more. We need to love ourselves enough to allow ourselves to grow in all of those areas and see and accept the positive, loving awesomeness that we deserve.
Find New Happiness at Any Age
No matter what our age, when it’s brought to our attention in some way that we are off path, or need to make changes in our life, we need to do it. We also need to stop pushing and allow healing and growth for ourselves in whatever time it takes. And sometimes it can take a while. So, make the effort and be patient. Allow yourself the space and the time you need.
Just don’t get too caught up in your age, where you are at in life, or even how much time it’s all taking sometimes. Whether you figure this all out at 25 or 75, it’s worth making the effort to find that love for yourself, make positive changes in your life, and then living the authentic and amazing life that you deserve.
A book the you might find interesting is Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert