There are a multitude of people out there teaching about the law of attraction. And it’s a real thing. Truly. You really can attract everything you want to you (energetically). But what no one is telling you is that you need to heal all the blocks that stand between you and everything you want first. And that sometimes you have a whole lot of healing to do to get you to where you want to be.
We all want everything instantly. We want to think it and it appears. I believe that deep down we know we deserve all that good stuff too. And we do. But there is a problem here. Often there is a wall between you and that good stuff. It’s part of your journey. You have been given challenges to overcome. While everyone has different challenges in different areas of their lives, we all have to heal our own stuff and rise above it to move forward. It’s part of our experience as a human being on this planet.
Manifestation on Different Levels
I have always been told I was a manifestor. That I could easily draw to me everything I needed and wanted. And I really did see that on a small scale. Or in my life, the ‘believable’ things happened for me. In other words, I believed I could get the closest parking stall every time or that cute apartment, but I didn’t believe I was worthy of great love or abundance. So, the parking stall always came easy, but love never did.
We don’t Like the Pain
The problem is, when we don’t recognize these beliefs and dig deeper – working to heal them in ourselves – then we won’t ever have what we truly desire. And in our world, we seem to be taught to just stuff our feelings down and not deal with them. Go out with your friends, drink, shop, eat – whatever it takes to feel better in the moment and avoid the bad feelings. But the old beliefs never go away, and subsequently you never find the life you desire and deserve (whether for you that is real love, success, financial security or all of them).
Healing is hard though. I’m not going to sugar coat this. It’s taken me years to dig and heal things. I went through anger, weeping to the point of exhaustion, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia, feelings of devastation and loss, and more. The deepest layers of it all I’ve just unearthed over the last year with some intense healing work (with the help of several different energy healers/therapists). It can all be pretty earth shattering too. I thought it was past loves that broke my heart and made me feel unlovable – and even myself breaking my own heart. But when we did the deep healing work and digging – it turns out it was my family. That brought out so much pain and anger in me. It was really the hardest part of my healing journey, because we count on our family to love us.
To realize that your own family never unconditionally loved you is awful. It was deeply painful to bring back all those childhood memories, and then to realize it was all still occurring in the present. It took a lot of self-love and growth, allowing myself to feel all those feelings and see them so clearly. To heal those feelings that you are unlovable. At this point I’m working toward forgiveness (while keeping boundaries for myself), as I realize they all have their own issues they are dealing with, and deeper reasons they can’t give me the love I always needed.
Love and Security are Often Mixed
I had the same experience around success and financial security in my life. It always seemed to elude me. I could never figure out why even when I did what I was passionate about, I was never successful at it. It was because I didn’t believe it was possible. Between the poverty mentality passed down from my parents and the generations before them, and that lack of unconditional love and support in being who I was and in doing what I wanted to do (and anyone else believing in me) – it meant failure.
This has also been a long road of healing for me. Overcoming those old thought patterns and the underlying beliefs. Seeing clearly what I experienced as a child and the impact it had on me – the values that it instilled, and the old beliefs. The feeling that I couldn’t succeed if I was my authentic self, doing things that I was passionate about. And also that I’d ever even have any financial security, as my parents never believed that it was possible, so I didn’t either. I’ve not only worked with healers on this, but read a tall pile of books to work to reprogram my thoughts around it all.
It’s a Long Road Worth Taking
For me, it’s literally taken years of introspection, deep healing work, reading, writing, feeling my way through it all, and a whole lot of tears and pain. But I’m finally to the point of clearing it all. My guides assured me recently (through a renowned psychic that I use) that the “strenuous period” of my life is finally over, the healing is done, and that it’s time for happiness. They told me I have finally reached the point where my ‘magnet’ works! Mind you, I am still working on how to use it. LOL. But now I can finally utilize some of the tools I learned over my lifetime around the law of attraction. Visualizing the life I want, saying affirmations about it, believing in what’s to come, and feeling all the good feelings as if I’m already experiencing it all. That is how you magnetize it to you.
It’s a process though. In some cases a really long one, like with me. I may be in my 50’s but I’ve finally unearthed all those old beliefs. I’ve finally let go of all the feelings that I wasn’t lovable, I wasn’t worthy of more, and I didn’t deserve the life that I desired. It has opened me up to what is possible. I’m now on the road to attracting a life I will love. A career that I will be passionate about, financial security, and unconditional love. I believe it now. And I know that I will find it. I have a newfound faith that is rising in me. And I’m seeing signs that things are beginning to align in amazing ways.
You CAN Turn Your Magnet on
So, what I want to tell you here is that if all the law of attraction stuff isn’t working for you, don’t give up. It is real. You just need to dig deep and figure out what belief, pain or feelings within you are blocking it so you can heal it and move forward. For some it will be so much easier than what I went through. Perhaps a much quicker ‘fix’. For others, it may be that there are many painful experiences, or even childhood trauma to unearth and heal. But regardless, it’s worth it. And honestly, it’s part of the journey you came here to take, so it’s worth your while to do the work.
Let the emotions rise in you, feel them, understand them, be kind to yourself and love yourself through it all. I feel like a new person with a new perspective on life, and I have a whole lot of life yet to live.
I’ll just tell you that even though I haven’t seen the ‘fruit’ of my labor yet, I feel the strength of my magnet now, and my wide-open heart and the love it is now capable of giving AND receiving. I already feel the expansive possibilities on the road ahead, and I’m so ready to experience life in a new way! I want you all to have this same glorious feeling about life! It is possible. If I can get there, anyone can!
Love and light to you on your journey! And here’s to all of our magnets working!
A book you might enjoy on this topic is The Having by by Suh Yoon Lee and Jooyun Hong – a book that teaches you about cultivating the feelings of having in the moment to attract more.