Surrendering and letting the Universe take charge can be a very challenging thing for a lot of people. Many have a tendency to want to control things. Others haven’t had anyone truly reliable in their life and have issues with trust. And for certain people it may be that you’ve just had a series of disappointments in others when you did give them your trust or relied on them. Maybe it’s all of these even. If you were raised in an unstable or very dysfunctional environment with an alcoholic, depressed, abusive or just emotionally unstable parent – you may have issues with all of these things.
How Can I Trust?
We also develop some of these issues as we go through life. Through our work relationships, dating/marital relationships, friendships and more. We develop a set of beliefs around people, and we tend to impose those beliefs on the Divine when we are asked to trust and let go. How can we do that? No one in our lives has ever shown us that we can do that. Just the thought of it makes you anxious, scared, tense, worried, fearful….there’s a whole list of emotions that can come up.
Every time I have to leave my dogs in the care of anyone, no matter how reliable they may be, I cry. Just the anticipation of having to trust someone to care for them and all my fears around that, even if it’s weeks or months before I travel and everything is set up – I will have moments of breaking down. It’s so hard to trust that I can rely on someone else. The reason I’ve been so stubbornly independent all my life is that some of the key people in my life kept letting me down. There are times I’ve felt like I can’t rely on anyone – or I’m afraid to. So, when I’m put in circumstances that I have to do just that, anxiety and fear kicks in and takes over.
There is No Need to Worry
We also tend to do this when we let our minds run away from us and worry about things. Our jobs, love interests, finances, etc. We worry about what’s to come, we worry about being ‘good enough’, we worry that things won’t happen for us as we hope, or we worry about how we will ‘make it happen’, and we even worry that we’ll screw it all up. When we don’t trust the Universe (or ourselves for that matter), we get stuck in a cycle of control, worry, fear and anxiety.
So why should we surrender all this fun we’re having to the Universe? Because it’s crazy. Seriously. Why do we do this to ourselves? I know we have to learn to trust, and that’s not easy, but this isn’t your father – it’s your creator. And for that matter a whole team of angels, guardian angels, guides and other Divine beings around you to literally guide and direct your life. Mind you, you do have free will, but if you ask them to help – they will. They do of course help even when we don’t ask, but the more you can surrender, the better things will get in terms of you working seamlessly with the Divine to move your life forward.
Healing your Trust Issues
How can you begin to heal and let go of these old fears and trust issues? Personally, I’ve been reading a lot of books on Surrender lately, just working to change my beliefs. I’ll note several below that I have found helpful. I’ve also been working with a healer, going back in my life and working on the times those issues began and releasing it. She also does some hypnotherapy with me building up the new beliefs in my subconscious. There are so many different healing modalities you can try for this. It was a psychic I have done several sessions with (who told me that surrender is one of the biggest things I need to work on) who told me to just “google it”. And really, just ask around, follow your gut, see what you find on surrender that resonates with you.
On a positive note, I feel that in recent years I’ve also made great strides in my surrender. In following the signs, and my gut feelings, and just trusting that the Universe is showing me the way. You have to learn to pay attention to what you are being shown, check in on how it feels and then act on it if you feel led to do that. Funny but I’ve been procrastinating on a few things in my business lately, and twice this week the song “what are you waiting for?” has played at pertinent times. Yep, I know – I’m taking steps forward on it. Sometimes things feel right, just a little scary. The Universe will keep nudging you though, so pay attention. Thanks Universe!
Follow Your Inner Google
I think where I personally still struggle though is not so much with following the Universal guidance, but with worrying how I will get to where I want to be in life. Instead of just letting go and trusting the signs I am given and the steps I need to take today, I get lost in my head about how I will make all these big things happen and end up unable to sleep, rolling around anxious and worried and uncertain. But really, there is no need for this. The Universe asks us simply to have a general vision and feeling of what we want in the future, and then release it. Trust that it will be done – if not your way, then better. If it’s truly meant to be, everything will fall into place in magical ways. Your job is to follow your gut, your intuition, your heart and your guidance in the moment. Or, as I heard someone say the other day, your “inner google”.
I know this is easier said than done. We all have moments when we try to override our guidance and our gut. And it usually doesn’t end up well. Whether we end up in a tumultuous relationship, or the wrong job, we realize we were ignoring our guts – ignoring the warning signs. Mind you, we usually can and do get back on track, and we learn lessons along the way – we also have to find our way back to surrender again.
Finding Your Way to Surrender
If this whole idea of surrendering your life to the Divine and following the guidance you get is new to you, don’t worry, you can bite this off in small chunks and feel your way through it. If you have struggled with worry, fear and anxiety though, this is definitely something you need to explore for yourself. Maybe start with books and journaling, and maybe enlist a healer or a therapist who is on board with this concept. Do what feels right, but I will give you some resources below that you can start with. But by all means be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Learning to trust again is a process, and developing your belief that you can trust the Universe also takes time. Love yourself through it and find your way to a more peaceful life, knowing that the Universe has your back.
“All stress is caused by wanting this moment to be something it’s not. I inhale what is. I accept this time for whatever it has to show me.” – Oprah Winfrey
I surrender to you my Divine creator.
I know in my heart that you want only the best for me,
and will guide me always in that direction.
I let go and allow you to steer, knowing that together we have set the course,
and the outcome will be more amazing than I could ever imagine.
I allow you to guide me in the direction of my dreams,
and I will trust and follow your guidance.
I am yours.
In light and in love.
Resources on Surrender
The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life’s Perfection by Michael Singer
Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine take the Lead by Tosha Silver
Change Me Prayers: The Hidden Power of Spiritual Surrender by Tosha Silver
It’s Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance by Tosha Silver
The Universe has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith by Gabrielle Bernstein
Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams by Gabrielle Bernstein