Now I’m not pointing the finger here at anyone, but some of us tend to be a bit stubbornly independent. And if you’re saying right now, “well what’s wrong with that?”, well a lot of things. I am very much this way. I can do everything myself. Right? Not so much. While it does push us to learn to do more and become very independent, it also pushes great opportunities for people to help us away.
For example, I have worked for years trying to create decent websites for my businesses which were all pretty sub-par, but I didn’t want to pay someone or ask for help. So I fumbled along and my businesses suffered, as no one could get the sites to function properly. Now, however, I’ve learned to ask for help. I am hiring someone to set up my website properly. It’s only going to take her a matter of weeks, because she’s a PROFESSIONAL. Seriously, there is nothing like hiring someone who has mastered what they do. You could never do better. Or at least it would take you years. Why waste the time?
Let People Help You
Anyway, my point is, life gets easier when you let people help you. Whether that’s paid help or otherwise. When we get stubborn and want to do it ourselves, sometimes we are just spinning our wheels. Besides, you likely have your own business and would like to attract clients, so why not think the same way when you need help or services? Help out another business, and you might attract more of that to your business! What if we all stubbornly thought we could do it ourselves? The service industry and all those talented people would be out of work. Why not let people help you with what they are good at?
It’s also about that energy flow. Spending time or money on someone who has the skills or is willing to help. Learning from them, having a shared goal, building a network, or a tribe. (see article on the energy of money)
Follow Your Instincts…and get References
If it’s about trust, then use your instincts, ask for referrals and/or references, and only sign-on short term so you can see what you think. But don’t let fear of asking for help or reaching out to others stand in your way. It can make life a heck of a lot easier and allow you to focus on things you are passionate about.
Another example of this is that I found a teenager in my neighborhood a few years ago willing to do yardwork, and shovel snow in the winter. He did a good job, and I kept calling him back. Since then he graduated high school and went to college, and his younger brother picked up the job and is doing a great job too. It’s made my life so much easier! And I have so much more free time on the weekends to do what I want to do, especially in the summer when mowing could take a while. While I could do this myself, I chose to invest in these young people and save myself some time and sweat! It gives me a little more balance in my life to have people helping me with the big tasks.
Let Go a Little
So let go of the reigns a little. Let your guard down just a bit. Say yes to that neighbor who asks if you need help trimming your trees. Allow that bag boy to carry your groceries to the car. Ask your boyfriend to do the laundry so you can get your writing done. Delegate some of your regular tasks to your assistant at work to take them off your hands and give you more time to focus on priority items (and not pull your hair out from stress). Or even hire someone to do a big task you don’t have the skill or the time for! It will make life a whole lot easier. Just don’t get upset if something isn’t done perfectly or exactly as you would have done it. It will be fine. Trust me. Breathe.
A book I can recommend is The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukov