A lot of people don’t like the word forgiveness. They think that they are giving someone something they don’t deserve. But the truth is, you are giving yourself the peace you deserve. And really, as we’ll discuss, it’s not only the way forward for you – but it’s about seeing the bigger picture and that no one is perfect. Everyone is learning their lessons in each lifetime.
It’s Not All Willy Nilly
When we came here to live this particular lifetime, we came with a plan. A very specific plan to help us to heal old wounds and programming, play out karmic situations, and to grow and evolve as souls. It involved a lot of situations, people, life-changing events, and more. You were part of the team planning it all and agreeing with the other souls involved in the plan. It is all divinely orchestrated to be exactly what is needed for your soul’s growth and evolution at this point.
So, does that mean you pre-picked your parents, your karmic relationships and all the challenges of your life? Yes, it does. Sorry to break that to you if you weren’t already aware. It’s true though. This is not all happening by accident. Mind you, you do have free will, and you could mess up the whole plan – it’s true. But generally, your guides do try and keep you on track and give you all the signs, feelings, and knowing that you need to send you in the right direction to live out that plan. And as I understand it, even when we do miss a change or a turning point for ourselves, it does come back around again, even if it’s in a new way. And we are directed to make other changes in the meantime to adjust the plan.
When You Don’t Follow Your Guidance
For example, earlier this year I felt like I needed to move. I was looking at other apartments in my area, and nothing was resonating. I felt strongly I needed to move, but didn’t find a new place I liked in time, and ended up just re-signing my lease. What I didn’t see was that I was being guided to move to California – or really, I think I saw it, but didn’t feel it was possible. That became clear after it was too late and I was already stuck in a lease again. So, what did I feel guided to do then? Redecorate my bedroom, which I filled with California pictures – hmmm…. So, my guides filled my space (without me realizing it at the time) with pictures of where I was MEANT to move to. I realized that later this year. And yes, I’m finally moving there in early 2021.
It’s All About Learning and Growth
So, let’s come back to our life plan. I wanted to talk about this because I think a lot of people are in victim mode, and we need to be able to step back and see the bigger picture. That you may have had horrible things happen in your life. You may have old programming or wounds you are healing. You may have had some terrible karmic relationships that broke your heart, and bruised and battered you in emotional, mental or even physical ways. We can sometimes get stuck there though – even when we are grown or the relationships are over – in the hurt and the pain. We just stuff it down. Deep down we may feel angry, heartbroken, devastated – and usually those painful karmic relationships are about helping us to see our childhood wounds of unworthiness, unlovability, abandonment and more that need to be healed.
I think one of the most difficult parts of the healing journey though is forgiveness – and it’s really the final step. It’s about seeing the fact, as I discussed earlier, that everyone was really playing their part in the journey. In this particular lifetime for all of you. That whether it was your parents, a karmic partner, or even a friend that you felt betrayed you in some way – it was all meant to grow you. Really, it’s about overcoming it all. About healing yourself. Loving yourself enough to do that. And about having faith in a power greater than yourself to get you there too.
You are Also the Teacher
The players involved were just there to play their part – and they are all on their own journeys of learning and growth as well. You weren’t just learning, you were also teaching. Remember that. They learned from you. They grew from their experience with you. Even if it’s not readily apparent, it’s true. It’s part of the plan.
Even if the people in your life were horrible to you, they WILL learn and grow from it. If not in this lifetime, in their next. Because karma also comes back to you. You don’t inflict suffering on others without also learning how that suffering feels. So, it’s not even worth getting upset about anymore. Leave it to God to sort that out. Heal your pain, eliminate the suffering from your own life, and let it go. Don’t carry that baggage a moment longer than you need to.
We Are Each on Our Own Journey
Where the forgiveness, or the letting go, comes in though – is having some compassion for where they are at in their journey. When I look back at my ex for example, I have a level of compassion now, knowing he has a long road ahead of him. I can clearly see that he is a much younger soul with a lot to learn, and that he will have his own pain and suffering ahead of him on that journey through his many lifetimes. His own awakenings. I wish him well on that journey. I sure learned a lot from the experience with him, and that helped me to find my own healing path to a better life. So, I’m thankful for that. I’ve come to a place of peace with it.
I think we have to not get lost in the weeds when it comes to the pain. Of course, when you are going through healing, it’s painful, and there is anger, and frustration, and feelings of victimhood. That’s all normal and should be felt and expressed. But later, when we come out on the other side of that and those feelings start to dissipate, we can find our way to the bigger picture we just talked about. To the realization that we are all just souls learning and growing and having certain experiences as such in our lives.
I’ve found that I’m pretty much arriving in this place lately. Of peace. Of acceptance. And even of seeing the good times despite the bad memories. For example, I had a very healing conversation with my brother recently when we talked about funny childhood memories and experiences. We both know the realities and pains of the past, but we also can see that our parents are really good people who tried their best, and gave us a good life overall. We both value all the good times and the positives from our life, and can forgive and let go of the rest. I feel I can, particularly with all the healing work I’ve done. All the old wounds are healed. I can see that they are just doing their best and learning their own lessons, having their own struggles, and even dealing with their own karma.
When the Lessons are Over
Life is an interesting journey. Is it all lessons? No. Thank goodness. LOL. I’ve been told by my guides this year that I have completed the ‘challenging’ part of my life, and overcame and healed it all – so now I can have my “happily ever after”. In other words, I checked off the boxes – the karmic lessons and the learning/growth/healing to-do list – and did what I set out to do that way. Not that there won’t be smaller lessons along the way, but the big stuff is done. The struggles are over. So now it’s time to work on co-creating with God through the energy of my heart, utilizing the law of attraction. But I couldn’t do this, or produce any significant results, if I still had all that anger, old wounds, and old programming/beliefs in me. It has to be healed and released. There is no way around that.
Everyone’s goals in each lifetime are different, but you have to get through any suffering in your plan to get to the good stuff. You have to find your self-love and faith through it all, to heal it, and to rise above it and let it go. It’s part of the journey. And it’s also the road to the manifestation of your dreams. Of everything that aligns with you and your now wide-open and healed heart. Void of any of that old pain. You can attract your life purpose, your dream life, and even the love of your life when your heart is that open. When you’ve risen above it all. It is possible and achievable! And really, it’s why you are here. To live your best life!
When You Let Go, You Open Your Heart
I can guarantee you that many of the truly happy people out there today have a story of suffering of some sort, and how they rose above it. How they healed it, loved themselves through it, and had faith in what was possible. And how they have compassion and forgiveness, on some level, for the people that hurt them along the way. For the pain and suffering of others on their own journeys. Because once you are healed and happy, you can find some understanding of those who are still stuck in the suffering, anger, victimhood or other lessons or karma of their journey.
It’s really about seeing that we are all the same though. All equal. All learning and growing. Even though we are all at different places on our journey through many lifetimes. It’s about letting it all go and rising above it all to some extent – opening your heart, having compassion, but also strong self-love and faith. And knowing that this journey is taking you to a beautiful destination. Because it wasn’t meant to be about suffering. It was meant to be a journey to your authentic self, and all you have to offer the world. Once you unearth that and let that shine through (which is really your open, authentic and beautiful heart) – all the good will flow in. And you will finally find the life of passion, joy, abundance and love you have always been looking for!
A book you might like on this topic is The Universe Always Has a Plan: The 10 Golden Rules of Letting Go by Matt Kahn